In Praise of Married Men

By Irish Eyes

Well, I may be crossing a different kind of line this time, but I'd like to talk about married men. When I got divorced and started getting to know more people, I soon found that there are a lot of married men who like to play. This was a slightly foreign concept to me, since I had not played around outside of my marriage. At first, I wasn't sure about playing with married men. What if their wives found out?? What if I fell in love with one of them?? What if their wives wanted to play, too?? Where would you meet them?? What are the rules?

So, I started chatting with more men, a good number of them married, playing solo, without their wives' knowledge or permission. Some of them have permission, but the wife doesn't want to know the details. The main characteristic of all the men is that they don't get enough sex with their wives. Some don't have any sex with their wives, some just not enough to please them. One was with a woman who used sex only as a reward! That surprised me the most- sex is supposed to be fun, mutually beneficial, not something you have to earn in such a businesslike way. As I got to know several of these guys, I realized that they loved their wives, love their children, but do not have sexual fulfillment in their marriage. How sad! I was in a marriage with very little sex for a long time and felt I had to be someone other than who I was in order to earn his attention. So, I could relate to their problem.

Obviously, there are some who will say that the sanctity of marriage should be preserved at all cost. Maybe those people don't know what it's like to not have sex with your spouse. Maybe they don't know what it's like to be unhappy for a long time and not be able to change the situation. I did change my situation, and now I'm very happy, but the marriage died after a prolonged illness. That's not the choice for everybody.

I decided it was not for me to judge. As long as a man assures me that I won't get caught up in any marital drama, and he will accept all responsibility for his own choices, I will take care of my own choices and my own drama. I'll decide what's right for me.

So, I started fucking married men. First, the down-sides. They are rarely available right when you feel like sex. They have their own families and own schedules. Discretion is paramount (as it is even for some of us single people). You have sex with a married man; you just don't talk about it. You can't call them. At least most of the time, it just isn't done. Instant Messaging has definitely helped this situation, because the other thing I found out about married men is that they frequently log on to the Yahoo Messenger when they are at work. I don't know how many guys have spent a little time with me on-line while jacking off at work. I alone could be responsible for a significant depletion of work hours, but I am not apologizing. Messaging and emails have also helped with arranging liaisons, but sometimes things happen and the married guy can't meet you. It just happens and you have to deal with it. They usually don't play at their own home (with occasional exceptions), so you usually have to host, or meet in hotels. When you do play at his house, you will be surrounded by evidence of his wife (the décor, the photos, the toiletries). You are his no-strings-attached sex partner. You don't get to fall in love with him, and he's not going to fall in love with you. It's just sex (really good sex admittedly, but just sex). I'm not spelling this out to dissuade anyone who's on the fence, just stating the facts.

Now, the good parts. I did make the title, In Praise Of Married Men!! They are SO damned appreciative of good sex. They go out of their way to pleasure a woman and make her happy. They are great at flirting, on-line or in person. Sexual innuendo turns them on. Taking your clothes off turns them on. Rubbing their cocks turns them on. Most of them (all of the ones I know) absolutely love to give oral sex to a woman!!! All of them (surprisingly enough) love to have a woman give them oral sex!! They can go on forever, fucking, licking, sucking, in all positions, until their time is up or you are both exhausted. Most of them, being deprived a good bit of the time except for solo masturbation, when they come, it is a huge load!!! They've been saving it up for a while. They are usually willing to use condoms if you like. A goodly number (all the ones I know again) have very, very nice cocks and can do wonderful things with them. Married men love to try stuff they never get to do with their wife- like anal fucking- and, if they have never tried it, they are such enthusiastic learners. They love the role playing and playfulness of sex. They love to get kinky. They will volunteer to help you wash your tits in the bathtub, put lotion all over your body, shave your pubic hair, teach you important stuff like how to eat another woman's pussy, and take pictures of you for your collection. They are totally helpful!! When you've fucked their brains out, they love snuggling with you (probably just a little while, but it's really nice).

So, in conclusion, I am in favor of married men. I love them all. I hope to have them all singly or plurally, someday. I didn't create the situation they are in, but if I can make their day a little happier sometimes, I can do that!! --

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