Squirting for Dummies 101

By Irish Eyes

After joining this site, I found, from time to time, men who asked me if I squirted. Well, being new to some of this, I didn't actually know what that meant. A few guys tried to explain, but it didn't really make sense (probably because they didn't really know either). I couldn't tell if this is something that just happens, something the woman makes happen, something the partner (male or female) makes happen, or something that must be learned. I watched a few videos, but they weren't very helpful, even though one woman seemed to shoot fluid out from her body halfway across the room. I couldn't tell if that was typical (I didn't think so, since it was a porn actress, and they usually exaggerate most things).

All I could honestly say was that I got very wet when aroused, and when I come, I'm not exactly paying attention to those other details. I know it wasn't an answer, but I didn't know anything more.

So, when I got my new book, Ducky Doolittle's Sex With the Lights On, I was interested to see that she has a section on this. I did some research and learned a lot. So, I will share this information with anyone who wants to know.

Squirting is sometimes called female ejaculation, but this is probably not correct. Ducky calls it a wet surge. When sexually aroused, women can release a surge of fluid-before orgasm, during orgasm, or even after orgasm. It can range from a big spray to just a change in wetness. All women produce this fluid, but some produce more than others. The fluid comes from the paraurethral glands which are part of the urethral sponge (better known as the G-spot!!). This is very sensitive tissue which surrounds the urethra (where urine exits the body) and is right next to the vagina. Some women may even think the fluid is actually urine and become very embarrassed (or their partner may freak out when they think the woman is peeing on them, unless they are really into that sort of thing!). Studies have shown that it is not urine even though the fluid comes through the urethra.

Some women release more fluid than others, leaving a big wet spot on the bed; others may just notice a subtle difference in the friction they feel during penetration (with fingers, vibrator, or cock). It's similar to the way all women are different in the sensitivity of their G-spot, and what type of orgasm is produced by that stimulation. Now, can a woman learn to squirt or is it something that just happens?? Well, according to Ducky, it depends on two things- G-spot stimulation and strong pelvic muscles. Deep massage of the G-spot can cause it to swell and may squeeze out the fluid. If you have strong pelvic muscles (those Kegel exercises all women should do to keep our pelvic organs toned up, especially during pregnancy), you may be able to squeeze the fluid from the G-spot (although with some women, it just happens spontaneously with orgasm). You can practice, by trying to bear down with your muscles when you are aroused (especially with G-spot stimulation!!). The best recommendation is to explore your body (or get your partner to help you!!) to find out what works for you. If you squirt, great! If you don't, have fun trying! But don't worry about it.

On the other end of the spectrum, apparently there are women who do squirt, but don't want to! They are tired of having a big wet spot in the bed, or they (or their partners) are just turned off by the whole thing. Nobody seems to have a good solution for this, except put down a protective pad and quit worrying about it. So, I hope this helps any other people out there who have questions about squirting. I still haven't had any practical experience, but now I know more, I'll work on it and see how it goes. If you have more information or questions, please let me know! --

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